Thursday, July 31, 2014


Starting a Relationship Off on the Right Foot....

requires some basic agreements. 

Once you have met the one you want to be with....then you have to deal with the relationship. But first, one should note this question: "Are we equally committed at the same level?"  If one is more committed than the other, this could lead to extreme uncertainty. The one dragging their feet may be saying, "I want to see how this goes before I put two feet in." Sounds logical, and yet you cannot really TEST the relationship well unless both have both feet in and give it a try that way. Otherwise one is always holding back and the shakiness of that makes one decide it cannot work. It was not a fair test.  Commitment means different things to different people. You may agree on commitment to monogamy or marriage or living together. 

But what about a commitment to stick to some agreements that will help the relationship?  Markus and made our first agreement rock solid: We both agreed to a relationship free of conflict. Now most people say that that is ridiculous and impossible. How do they know if they never committed to trying it?  It does not mean that things or issues don't come up. They will. How you handle them is the key. We agree to handle them without anger and /or arguing. This simple agreement we have stuck to and it has created magic in our relationship. Of course one has to know conflict resolution techniques.  These can easily be learned. I have mentioned them in nearly every book I have written on relationships.

I honor my master Babaji for teaching me this simple one.

Upon a situation where there is disagreement and potential upset.

  1. We both agree to drop our "position".

  2. We both give up the need to be right.

  3. We both agree to GO FOR SOLUTION.

  4. We both agree that the solution would be the highest thought we could think of.

  5. The highest thought is the one that is the most positive, the most loving, the most productive and the one that feels the best in your body.

  6. If Markus channels the highest thought, I gladly go up to his thought. If I channel the highest thought, he gladly goes up to my thought. 

  7. If we cannot tell which is the highest thought (usually you can however) then we definitely do no argue about THAT. We would go apart a meditate and ask God and/or get the help of a third party who is more clairvoyant at the time. (A child could get the highest thought).

My point is you do need to decide early in the game how you are going to solve conflicts. Otherwise stuff will come up and you will just argue like everyone else and stay in a low vibration. You should understand each others' upbringing on this issue. How did the parents on both sides handle differences? (Probably not well.)

Babaji also taught me how to handle anger and I have never heard a better recommendation than this one:

  1. You don't stuff your anger, as that hurts your body.

  2. You don't dump it on your mate or anyone else. That hurts them.

  3. Instead, you CHANGE THE THOUGHT that causes the anger and breathe out the bad energy.

So we might say to each other this:  "I am feeling activated." (I am NOT yelling or raising my voice, nor am I stuffing what I feel)  Then I say, "The negative thought that makes me feel activated is..............." 

And always this dissipates the charge, and with the commitment to no-conflict, we can get over our activations a lot easier. You can try this and see the immediate results. You can also have a Liberation Breathing session which will really clear your head !!

Go here for more info on that:  Liberation Breathing Website



Sunday, July 27, 2014


Lately I've been thinking.....

how a relationship is conceived.

Many people are "hunting" for love and they are so needy that they make a lot of mistakes choosing a partner. They settle for less than they deserve because they are desperate. Recently a client conceived a relationship on line and they even fell in love on skype. But when she traveled to meet the guy and get together, he was a total scam artist! (She had even lent him money like many other women). Partly it happened because of her own conception being inappropriate. I often see people re-creating their own conception trauma when trying to get a mate.  Think about it. If you were totally not wanted by one or both parents that is a conception trauma!  You will tend to attract partners who don't want you, or you won't want the one who wants you. It is tricky and you need the help of a good Liberation Breathworker to unwire this pattern in your subconscious. If your parents were drunk when you got conceived, you might think you can only meet a partner drinking in a bar.  If your conception was an "accident", you might not believe that you can create a partner by the power of your mind. The science of deliberate creation won't occur to you.  So it certainly helps to understand your own conception. Of course if you were totally wanted and planned by both parents, everything will be easier for you.... obviously. If not...all is not lost. Forgiveness of your past will liberate you and put you in a new vibe.


I have met some people who did find a match on line, but I really, really think one should stick with the "COSMIC DATING SERVICE".  God knows more single people than you do and He/She knows where is the right one for you. So let's try to keep it spiritual. So the cosmic dating service goes like this:

  1. You love yourself totally and do not NEED anyone to be happy
  2. You ask God or your Guru to find the right mate for you
  3. You ALLOW them to come from anywhere.

IF this system is not working, then you are blocked. You need a breathing session to find out what your block is. Also read these books:

ASK AND IT IS GIVEN  by Ester Hicks
LOVE WILL FIND YOU  by Kathryn Alice

There are three types of joining
a. sexual
b. karmic
c. cosmic

People hook up too fast because of sexual attraction. Then they have sex and it brings up so much that they don't know how to process.... so they get into a mess quickly.

Karmic relationships can happen, but usually they are not long lasting....or they seem to last forever. You work out the karma and then your are done. Sometimes this takes 30 days and sometimes this takes 30 years. But you can cut the time by saying NO to your own suffering.

The Cosmic Connection is where you ask your Guru, or GOD, to put you with a holy person with whom you can do service to humanity. Then you make beautiful things together for the world.

Obviously the ideal is to find your twin soul who makes your heart sing, the one who is aligned with the way you are, and the one who loves you just as you are. (If someone wants to change you it means that you really are not what that person wants).

In my case I had been working all around the world by myself for a long time. I was totally happy alone serving Babaji, my guru. But then one day (some would say "late in life") I decided I wanted to experience a Holy Relationship in this incarnation. I told Babaji I wanted an arranged marriage from Him. I was already a public figure and I could not afford any big mistake. I figured Babaji knew every man's past, present and future.... and therefore I should rely on Him. After all, I cannot always tell someone's karma immediately like He could. I might find a man I liked; but what if he had very heavy karma?  I did not want to take a chance. So I invented the Cosmic Dating Service, so to speak, and boy am I glad I did.

The problem was that I had been alone for so many decades that I was VERY independent. I decided I had to get myself ready. I was certain Babaji would send me a good man but I had to prepare myself first. So what did I do?  I bought four great gifts for a man I would love and I wrapped them up! I did some mantras. TO READ, GO HERE ON THIS BLOG.  When he still did not come, I decided I should start to write him AS IF he was already here, as my lover. I wrote letters, "Dear Beloved", and shared what I would share with a man who was here for me.  I also did the affirmation, "I am so happy and grateful my man is here now."  All of this totally worked.  I went to teach in Philadelphia and a man showed up in my seminar I had not seen for 20 years. It was Markus. I had no idea he was out of his marriage and available.

I will tell you how perfect he is for me:
  • He is a liberation breathworker like myself
  • He is a Course in Miracles teacher like myself
  • He is a writer like myself
  • He is a devotee of Babaji and the Divine Mother like myself
  • He is a student of Ho' Oponopono (Hawaiian spirituality) like myself.
  • He is a painter and poet who never ceases to amaze me with his creations!!

Now how could I have ever conceived such a perfect match by myself?? THE CONCEPTION WAS PERFECT!

So we immediately got to work on our mission together.



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SONDRA and MARKUS on their Wedding Day in INDIA.

Saturday, July 26, 2014


"Lately I've been thinking.....

that people need to know just why we shave our heads.

Sondra and Markus with Mundun at the "Jesus Tree" in India

Maria and Ricardo from Brazil....on the Banks of the Gautama Ganga River in India

Markus and I go to India every year and the head shave is one of the spiritual purification practices we endorse. In India it is called simply Mundun.  First of all it is not at all obligatory.  It is, however, a very deep purification process that absolutely works. Notice your reaction and all that comes up for you just hearing and reading about it!  Now imagine all that would come out if you actually did it!


Well, that is the point!   If you want an extreme, rapid, surefire purification, this could be it for you.
If you are lucky enough to have Babaji to take responsibility for your entire liberation, then this is
how you get that blessing. It is between you and the Guru.

For me it was one of the highest spiritual experiences of my life, which opened me up greatly. Mostly, I felt really, really honored to be offered this "initiation." This initiation ritual has been done for thousands of years; and so obviously it is done so because of all the value one gains. Shaving your head (and this includes to the skin with razor blade, not just a buzz cut) is a very personal, deep experience between you and God.  It is something you CHOOSE. Babaji certainly never made me do it.  For me, it was a symbolic act whereby I was saying to God: "Look, I am gong to try to surrender as much as possible to You, and in this act I am demonstrating my willingness to join my will with Yours." 

The tradition is to leave it shaved for nine entire months (which is the period of time you spent the womb) for one to get the full benefit. You process the womb memories; you get to let go of tons of karma fast; you get healed of all kinds of conditions,; you get opened up in your crown chakra; you become more intuitive; and here is the best part: You have to rise above what people will say and think,  and decide that your liberation is more important than anything else.  This gives you a lot of certainty and clarity. It liberates you from other peoples' opinions about you. It even liberates you from your own opinions about yourself! It is a radical method of altering one's false identification with a body and a personality

We are so used to seeing ourselves appear one way as we look in a mirror. Mundan changes that immediately.... obviously. It gives you a chance to see that "something" in you that appears constant, regardless of any changes in the physical. It stimulates all the psychic centers in the head, opens your mind,  and creates a singular unit of cosmic reception that has a clearer relationship with the universal vibratory state. It puts you in the vortex of receiving Divine Intelligence.... which is already in you by the way. Mundun opens the spigot for you to receive more energy, money, love, inspiration, joy, ease, intimacy and happiness. It gets you in touch with your true Self as God created you.

The first time I did it I was around age 33 and single. I was prepared to be celibate for nine months with no problem. But to my immense surprise I had more men interested in me than I could have imagined. They knew I was not a Hari Krishna, as I was dressed too sophisticated for that. They knew I was not a cancer patient, as they saw how healthy I was. They became fascinated with me. Probably it was also because I was in a continual altered state that they found irresistible. Anyway, It was a surprise for me. I had as many lover opportunities as I wanted.

Of course my mother cried. I was prepared for that though. I said, "Mom you are not going to deny me one of the most religious experiences I have ever had in my whole life, are you?"  She accepted it later. Anyway, I felt fantastic the whole time.... and people could see that.

Mundun should not be done in a barber shop. It is most auspicious done at an ashram like Herakhan
(Babaji's home) along the river bed, along the Gutama Ganga, a tributary of the Ganges. If you come to India in our group you will have all the support you want—before, during and after. All the people on the India Quest will come to honor you at your Mundun ceremony and chant the mantra for you. You will have a buddy to sit with you and help put your fallen hair on a large banana leaf, float your hair (which holds your past) down the river, and help you immerse yourself in the river 3 X afterwards. Markus and I will anoint your head in the Duni (Divine Mother Fire Temple) when all the Munduns of our group are complete.  Then imagine: going in Babaji's cave after all this for meditation!!!!  This is the cave where He materialized His body.  What could possibly be better for your evolution than that?

Think about it.  Join us in India even if you don't chose to have Mundun, the sacred head shave. There are plenty of other remarkable spiritual and cultural benefits. 
  • The nine day Divine Mother Celebration will change your life forever. 
  • We practice Liberation Breathing® with our group every day.
  • You get to be in one of the most High Energy spots on earth
  • Meet all kinds of interesting people from all over the world
  • Learn the spiritual traditions India has to offer
  • Go deeply into your inner Self and come back joyous
  • Retreat from the pressure of everyday routines
  • Register here: India Quest 2015
I really hope to make contact with you soon.



Sondra in Babaji's Cave in Herakhan


Wednesday, July 23, 2014


A Labor of Love for 3 Years

Over three years ago I began a journey of writing these Odes to the Divine Mother. It began in Bali. It began with an inspiration from the young Legong dancers who were the impetus for the Odes, who formed the Muse of this sacred intimation and outpouring. 365 Odes later....I am coming to the Flower of this journey...and soon these will be available for the public. I have been placing them here and there, on my Facebook, and on ART LOOK, and in e-mails to my friends. Here it is in keeping with this urge to share, I post the first Ode, along with the "feet of my Master" who most represents the Divine Mother Energy to me in my everyday life, my wife and consort, SONDRA RAY....on our wedding day.

I Am At Your Feet

I am at Your feet, forever at Your feet. To me that is higher than Mt. Everest. You are beyond the stars, so Your toes are the very galaxies I cannot comprehend. To touch them is to rise higher than I have ever gone. To leave this world a moment in my contemplation of You is to travel light years past my familiar places, past the planets of this solar system, past my place on earth in this small body of flesh and bone, into another realm of Divine perfection. I cannot fathom You, but nonetheless my certainty grows of Your omnipresent existence in everything I can sense, and in everything so far beyond what I can sense. Even my thought falls short of conceiving Your immensity. I am silenced for a while in gratitude, knowing Your tender loving care surrounds me in all time and space—Your caresses upon my soul reassure my child, walking ahead of You, that my Mother will always be there, just a half step behind me, to guide my steps and cushion any fall. O Mother, I sing my praises to You as I enter into a New Life. Purge me of all guile, make me Your servant more and more; come into me completely and inspire my Life to be an action of beauty for You. 


Liberation Breathing: The Divine Mother's Gift

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SONDRA RAY....50 and Beyond

SONDRA RAY discusses in Iceland reinventing herself after 50...and Beyond. She gives a short description of Liberation Breathing in the thermal waters of the Blue Lagoon in Iceland, and how this experience enhances people's lifestyle.